Medjugorje, Bosnia and Herzegovina
When I came back from Medjugorje, my views about life changed. I am now a different person and I am also looking at life from a different perspective. I have found the true meaning of existence at last. Life in Medjugorje was peaceful, quiet and calm and for the first time in my life I was able to restore my mind and think clearly what I wanted in life, how I wanted to live my life, and how to get my life on the right path. And of course thinking and reflecting alone wasn't enough without guidance from above. That was why I chose Medjugorje. Why Medjugorje? Because I knew that God would help me to find myself, my life, and my future in this holy place. Now that I have set myself on the right path, I live to love myself and make myself happy in each and every second of my life. I do not expect other people to make me happy because the only person who can make me happy is myself. Life is a journey, make the best of it. My goal is to make myself better every day, to serve God, and be the perfect bride of Christ. My prayer life has also greatly improved. I pray for hours every day now, something I seldom did before my pilgrimage to Medjugorje. Saying the Croatian rosary is really interesting as it makes me feel different and this is also one of the reasons why I love to pray so much now. And I always feel better after saying my prayers.
Before I went to Medjugorje, I had a boyfriend. He was one of the most eligible bachelors in town - handsome, rich and well-educated. Somehow, I have never considered myself lucky for having such a "diamond bachelor" boyfriend because I couldn't help feeling that it wasn't possible for him to be faithful to me. It was an inevitable fact that all the girls in town would willingly die for him and although he kept saying that he could be faithful, I just couldn't trust him. As I was wondering what to do with him, Medjugorje came into my life and I was glad that I discovered my answer in Medjugorje. After I came back from Medjugorje, I found that I have completely lost interest in him. In other words, I had no more feelings for him and I just couldn't be bothered what he was doing or what was happening to him. I wasn't even interested to talk to him or see him again. He was like a complete stranger to me. I didn't know why I had a sudden change of heart but I considered this a great blessing. Have I ever felt sad about letting him go? NO. I couldn't help feeling that I was actually doing myself a great favour. I was relief and felt at peace with myself and with the world. Why? Because I would never end up being a broken-hearted divorcee and / or single-mother. Because I would never give anyone the chance to ruin my life. How did I know that he would ruin my life? Through my sixth sense. Sometimes we have to trust our instincts. Listening to our intuition can help us avoid disasters.
Many woman do not consider divorce to be a serious issue since life goes on and they can always remarry no matter how many times they have divorced. But I don't like the idea of a man coming into my life for a short while, mess it up, defile it, and leave without remorse. I would rather offer myself as a pure and chaste virgin to the Lord. Wow! Being single is simply wonderful. I have all the time in the world for My Lord now and I enjoy saying the French rosary followed by the Croatian rosary every night. My mind is serene and peaceful. I have become the happiest person in the world as there is no need to worry about anyone or anything. I don't live for a man. I only live for myself and for the Lord. This is my victory.
Now that I have found the right direction in life, I have so many plans for the future and so much to do that I really don't know what to do first. I want to be actively involved in church activities. I want to pray for hours each day. I want to write many, many articles for this blog. I have to teach my teenage students. I have to write my Ph.D. thesis. Well, maybe this is what really gives meaning to life. Most of all, these things cannot destroy me. Father Slavko Barbaric has a Ph.D. Pope Benedict XVI has a Ph.D. To be perfect like them, I must get a Ph.D. too. After getting my Ph.D, I will dedicate all my time to do God's work. And there are lots of things that I am going to do for My Lord.
Those who do not understand the real meaning and purpose of life are always busy seeking men because marriage, husband, and children are their everything. If they can find what they want, they are very happy but when they continue to fail again and again in their relationships, they become very desperate and unhappy. As the saying goes, women are most dangerous to themselves when they are desperate to be loved (Vanessa PA Evelyn). In the process of seeking men, they may end up losing everything and destroying themselves. I really feel sorry for my spinster friends when they keep telling me how desperate they are in trying to find a man. Some of them do not mind being a second wife or secret mistress. A former colleague of mine used to say that she would marry any guy who would take her as his wife. She has a few houses and is always busy collecting rent. But she is really desperate. Once, I told her about a very irritating family friend and I thought she would agree that someone like him would never be able to get a wife. What is so wrong with this guy? Well, he doesn't like to work and is terribly stingy. To save money, he always takes his meals at his younger sister's house and anyone in their right senses can see that he is actually looking for a wife who doesn't mind supporting him. Guess what my former colleague said? She asked me to introduce this guy to her.
When I told a former classmate of mine about this lazy, useless, and stingy guy, she too asked me to introduce him to her. She is rich herself and she doesn't mind supporting him. Perhaps, she is really desperate after her live-in boyfriend of eight years left her recently. Then, there is this friend of mine who keeps saying that she's afraid that she would die alone in the house without anyone knowing about it. She is sad that she isn't married and has no children. She always says that she is very lonely. Even after spending hours watching television each day, she has a lot of time to spare and she doesn't know what to do with her spare time.
I feel sad for my spinster friends because they don't know how to live and what to live for. Is a man really that important to a woman that she cannot live without him? As for me, I don't have the time to feel lonely and think about dying alone in the house. Why worry when the Lord will take care of me? I have no fear of the future. Frankly speaking, even if I have a boyfriend now, I'll have no time for him. I don't even know what I am going to do with him. My advice for spinsters is: Do not despair if you cannot find a man. Do you know that life is more fun without him? You can do what you want, spend all your money on yourself, and have lots of time for yourself as there is no need to wash and cook like a maid after a hard day's work. You don't have to suffer in silence because there is no one to hurt you. And most of all, you can keep your youthful looks and beautiful figure because you don't have to make babies and work multiple jobs to support the family. Too much stress can damage your health and speed up aging. You don't have to worry about not having enough sleep because you can sleep the whole day if you want during holidays and weekends! If you were a wife and mother, you have to wake up at 5.00 a.m. to prepare breakfast for your family and do all the housework. I used to sympathize with my mom when I saw her doing that and I am thankful that I can sleep until 12 noon during the school holidays. What a good life! I am thankful that I don't have to be a wife and mother.
Now that I have found the right direction in life, I have so many plans for the future and so much to do that I really don't know what to do first. I want to be actively involved in church activities. I want to pray for hours each day. I want to write many, many articles for this blog. I have to teach my teenage students. I have to write my Ph.D. thesis. Well, maybe this is what really gives meaning to life. Most of all, these things cannot destroy me. Father Slavko Barbaric has a Ph.D. Pope Benedict XVI has a Ph.D. To be perfect like them, I must get a Ph.D. too. After getting my Ph.D, I will dedicate all my time to do God's work. And there are lots of things that I am going to do for My Lord.
Those who do not understand the real meaning and purpose of life are always busy seeking men because marriage, husband, and children are their everything. If they can find what they want, they are very happy but when they continue to fail again and again in their relationships, they become very desperate and unhappy. As the saying goes, women are most dangerous to themselves when they are desperate to be loved (Vanessa PA Evelyn). In the process of seeking men, they may end up losing everything and destroying themselves. I really feel sorry for my spinster friends when they keep telling me how desperate they are in trying to find a man. Some of them do not mind being a second wife or secret mistress. A former colleague of mine used to say that she would marry any guy who would take her as his wife. She has a few houses and is always busy collecting rent. But she is really desperate. Once, I told her about a very irritating family friend and I thought she would agree that someone like him would never be able to get a wife. What is so wrong with this guy? Well, he doesn't like to work and is terribly stingy. To save money, he always takes his meals at his younger sister's house and anyone in their right senses can see that he is actually looking for a wife who doesn't mind supporting him. Guess what my former colleague said? She asked me to introduce this guy to her.
When I told a former classmate of mine about this lazy, useless, and stingy guy, she too asked me to introduce him to her. She is rich herself and she doesn't mind supporting him. Perhaps, she is really desperate after her live-in boyfriend of eight years left her recently. Then, there is this friend of mine who keeps saying that she's afraid that she would die alone in the house without anyone knowing about it. She is sad that she isn't married and has no children. She always says that she is very lonely. Even after spending hours watching television each day, she has a lot of time to spare and she doesn't know what to do with her spare time.
I feel sad for my spinster friends because they don't know how to live and what to live for. Is a man really that important to a woman that she cannot live without him? As for me, I don't have the time to feel lonely and think about dying alone in the house. Why worry when the Lord will take care of me? I have no fear of the future. Frankly speaking, even if I have a boyfriend now, I'll have no time for him. I don't even know what I am going to do with him. My advice for spinsters is: Do not despair if you cannot find a man. Do you know that life is more fun without him? You can do what you want, spend all your money on yourself, and have lots of time for yourself as there is no need to wash and cook like a maid after a hard day's work. You don't have to suffer in silence because there is no one to hurt you. And most of all, you can keep your youthful looks and beautiful figure because you don't have to make babies and work multiple jobs to support the family. Too much stress can damage your health and speed up aging. You don't have to worry about not having enough sleep because you can sleep the whole day if you want during holidays and weekends! If you were a wife and mother, you have to wake up at 5.00 a.m. to prepare breakfast for your family and do all the housework. I used to sympathize with my mom when I saw her doing that and I am thankful that I can sleep until 12 noon during the school holidays. What a good life! I am thankful that I don't have to be a wife and mother.
Think of our priests and nuns who willingly give up love and marriage to serve the Lord. These are the people who have found the real meaning and purpose of life. Well, you don't have to become a nun or a priest to if you don't like to but you can still serve the Lord wholeheartedly even as ordinary members of the Church. Do not sit and mourn just because you can't find a man in your life. Remember, there are lots of things that you can do for yourself and for this world. Live for yourself and not for a man who may hurt you or destroy your life.
Divorce is extremely common nowadays and not many people can escape from it. However, it can be very destructive to a woman because it takes away her everything. What are the destructive things that a man can do to a woman? After getting married and giving birth to a few kids, a woman will lose her youthful looks and slim figure. When her husband leaves her for another woman, she becomes a single-mother and instead of pampering herself each day, she has to toil and moil for her children. The pain and aftermath of divorce can turn her into a bitter, depressed, and pitiful woman. When her children grow up, get married and leave her, she will still end up being alone after all that she has suffered. But is it worth all her sufferings? I will not waste time on these things. I will never make a fool of myself for a man's love. I will rather spend my whole life pampering myself and be a spoilt child!
I promised to consecrate my virginity to the Lord on Mount Krizevac and I have never regretted doing so. In fact I feel so proud of myself because my life had since found its meaning and purpose. What about this New Year? Would it be as meaningful and purposeful as the previous years? I know that I will love this New Year too as much as I love the previous years. This is going to be another beautiful year for me because I know how to love myself and give myself the best of everything. And I am getting better each day because I want to be the perfect bride of Christ.
I promised to consecrate my virginity to the Lord on Mount Krizevac and I have never regretted doing so. In fact I feel so proud of myself because my life had since found its meaning and purpose. What about this New Year? Would it be as meaningful and purposeful as the previous years? I know that I will love this New Year too as much as I love the previous years. This is going to be another beautiful year for me because I know how to love myself and give myself the best of everything. And I am getting better each day because I want to be the perfect bride of Christ.
Thanks for reading. To those who are still seeking the meaning and purpose of life, I hope that this article helps. You may also like to read Will your husband divorce you and marry his lover? and Is Marriage Really Necessary and Important in Today's World? To view the content page of this blog, please click here.
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