The State of Virginity

The State of Virginity
I should like you to be free of all worries. The unmarried man is busy with the Lord's affairs, concerned with pleasing the Lord; but the married man is busy with this world's demands and occupied with pleasing his wife. This means he is divided. The virgin - indeed, any unmarried woman - is concerned with things of the Lord, in pursuit of holiness in body and spirit. The married woman, on the other hand, has the cares of this world to absorb her and concerned with pleasing her husband. I am going into this with you for your own good. I have no desire to place restrictions on you, but I do want to promote what is good, what will help you to devote yourselves entirely to the Lord. 1 Corinthians 7:32-35

Monday, April 26, 2010


For weeks I have not really been writing anything for my blog because I really couldn't find the time. But I will try to write something tonight with the little time I have. I appreciate comments from my readers but please DO NOT decorate your comments with links to obscene sites. This is supposed to be a Catholic blog. Recently there were some comments in chinese with obscene links. I can't read chinese and I had to ask my brother to translate it for me and he said that it was alright to publish those comments. It was not until later that I discovered the obscene links in those comments. What a shame! I have already deleted all these obscene comments.

What prompted me to write tonight's article? I have been browsing the web looking for Medjugorje articles. As usual, I came across many negative things about Medjugorje. The question I would like to answer tonight is, "Is Medjugorje a hoax and a money making scam?"

Before I proceed any further, I would like to ask these questions? Are we being deceived by Medjugorje? Why do we go to Medjugorje in the first place? To pray and to spend some precious moments with the Lord. To be with our Blessed Mother and to share some beautiful moments with Her. To spend some quiet moments pondering over our lives. To ask the Lord and His Blessed Mother what they want from us. To experience the peace that we seldom find back home. Can we say that we are being deceived to do such things? Well, I would say that it's a great blessing to be able to get so close to Jesus and our Blessed Mother in this holy place. And of course no one can force us to do these things if we don't want to.

The reason why I went to Medjugorje is clearly explained in my first article in this blog. I didn't go there because of what the visionaries said. In fact I am not really interested in what they say. I am more interested in what is happening in Medjugorje. I went there because Our Lady has personally invited me to be with her in this place of grace. If our Blessed Mother wants us to be there, we will get there somehow. Anyone can say, "Look, Our Lady is here" or "She is there" but your instinct will guide you to the truth. Just follow your instinct and do what is right. It is not for anyone to tell me that Our Lady is here or there. It was the feeling of her presence in Medjugorje that brought me to this place. I suppose the same applies to all those who have been to Medjugorje. If someone were to tell you that there is a goddess in the moon you would not believe it until you have found proof to it. We are not fools. We all have brains and we know what is right and wrong.

Is Medjugorje really a money making scam? What kind of money making scam is Medjugorje involved in? Surely there is nothing wrong making an honest living providing food and lodging for the pilgrims? Surely there is nothing wrong selling souvenirs to the pilgrims? Whether it is Lourdes or Fatima or the Vatican City, the pilgrims need a place to stay and they need food. They would only be too glad if they could find a wonderful hotel where they can stay comfortably and enjoy good food. Nobody wants to live on the streets with all those luggage. Nobody wants to bring along instant noodles and do their own cooking on the streets in Medjugorje. I wouldn't want to camp on the streets and cook instant noodles for my meals. That would be most unpleasant.

Come to think of it, I had a comfortable stay in Medjugorje. I had a beautiful and spacious hotel room with a beautiful scenery and good food to eat. I was glad that I had so many things to buy there - thanks to the beautiful souvenir shops. When I saw the souvenir shops and so many of them too, my heart really leapt with joy. I am so proud of the Medjugorje books and souvenirs that I brought home with me. My room is full of them and they always make me feel close to Medjugorje. I would be really sad if I couldn't do any shopping in Medjugorje. I would hate to return home empty handed.

No one forces us to go to Medjugorje. We go there out of our own free will. In fact we should be thankful to the people of Medjugorje for making our stay there so pleasant, comfortable and enjoyable. They are only making an honest living. They have never forced us to part with our money. And they are very honest people. They never ask for more than they deserve.

Thursday, April 22, 2010


God is our refuge and our strength,
an ever-present help in distress.
Therefore we fear not, though the
earth be shaken
and mountains plunge into the
depths of the sea;
Though its waters rage and foam
and the mountains quake at its surging.
The Lord of hosts is with us;
our stronghold is the God of Jacob.
(Psalm 46: 2-4)

Fear not when a man grows rich,
when the wealth of his house becomes great,
For when he dies, he shall take none of it;
his wealth shall not follow him down.
Though in his lifetime he counted
himself blessed,
"They will praise you for doing well
for yourself,"
He shall join the circle of his forebears
who shall never more see light.
Man, for all his splendour, if
he have not prudence,
resembles the beasts that perish.
(Psalm 49: 17-21)

The Lord watches over the life of
the wholehearted;
their inheritance lasts forever,
They are not put to shame in an
evil time;
in days of famine they have
But the wicked perish,
and the enemies of the Lord, like
the beauty of the meadows,
vanish; like smoke they vanish.
(Psalm 37:18-20)

The wicked man plots against
the just
and gnashes his teeth at them;
But the Lord laughs at him,
for he sees that his day is coming.
A sword the wicked draw; they bend
their bow
to bring down the afflicted and
the poor,
to slaughter those whose path
is right.
But their swords shall pierce
their own hearts,
and their bows shall be broken.
(Psalm: 37:12-15)

Commit to the Lord your way;
trust in him, and he will act.
He will make justice dawn for you
like the light;
bright as the noonday shall be
your vindication.
(Psalm 37:5-6)

The salvation of the just is from
the LORD;
he is their refuge in time of
And the LORD helps them and
delivers them;
he delivers them from the wicked
and saves them,
because they take refuge in him.
(Psalm 37:39-40)

Tuesday, April 20, 2010


Look to this Day!
For it is life, the very life of life.
In its brief course
Lie all the verities and realities of your existence:
The bliss of growth
The glory of action
The splendor of beauty,
For yesterday is but a dream
And tomorrow is only a vision,
But today well lived makes every yesterday
a dream of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Look well, therefore, to this day!
Such is the salutation to the dawn.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010


Couper l'herbe sous le pied de quelqu'un.
(To cut the grass under someone's foot)

Jeter de l'huile sur le feu.
(To throw oil on the fire - to add fuel to the fire)

Cracher dans la soupe.
(To spit in the soup)

Casser du sucre sur le dos de quelqu'un.
(To talk about someone behind his or her back)

Tomber les quatre fers en l'air.
(To fall flat on one's back)

Tourner autour du pot.
(To beat around the bush)

Voir le monde par le petit bout de la lorgnette.
(To see the world through the small end of a spy glass)

Tomber des nues.
(To fall from the clouds)

C'est un travail de Romain.
(A Herculean task)

Prendre un bain de foule.
(To mingle with the crowd)

Avoir des lettres.
(To be well read)

Faire cavalier seul.
(To act like a lone rider)

Mettre la clef sous la porte.
(To put the key under the door - to close down a business)

Faire le pont.
To make the bridge - to take a long weekend)

Sauter au plafond.
(To jump to the ceiling - to be very, very angry and surprised)

Casser la baraque.
(To break the shack - to spoil something that someone else has built up)

Faire le mur.
(To do the wall -to escape, to go over the wall)

Raser les murs.
(To shave the walls - to keep a low profile)

Il tombe des hallebardes.
(It's raining cats and dogs)

Saisir la balle au bond.
(To seize the ball on the rebound - to seize the opportunity, to jump at the opportunity)

Tuesday, April 6, 2010


Ce n'est pas la vache qui crie le plus fort qui fait le plus de lait.
(It is not the cow that moos the loudest that gives the most milk)

La faim chasse le loup du bois.
(Hunger flushes the wolf out of the woods - necessity knows no law)

Le loup retourne toujours au bois.
(The wolf always goes back to the woods - one always goes back to one's roots)

C'est en forgeant qu'on devient forgeron.
(It is by forging and forging again that one becomes a blacksmith - practice makes perfect)

Il faut casser le noyau pour avoir l'amande.
(One needs to break the kernel to get the diamond - no pain no gain)

C'est la poule qui chante qui a fait l'oeuf.
(It's the hen that sings that laid the egg - the guilty dog barks the loudest)

Qui casse les verres les paie.
(He who breaks the glasses has to pay for them - as you make your bed, so you must lie upon it)

Ce sont les tonneaux vides qui font le plus de bruit.
(Empty barrels are the ones that make the most noise)

Qui n'entend qu'une cloche n'entend qu'un son.
(He who hears only one bell hears only one sound - hear the other side)

A mauvais ouvrier point de bons outils.
(To a bad workman, no good tools - a bad workman blames his tools)

Paris ne s'est pas fait en un jour.
(Paris wasn't made in one day)

Qui craint le danger ne doit pas aller en mer.
(He who fears danger shouldn't go to sea)

L'exactitude est la politesse des rois.
(Punctuality is the politeness of kings)

La raison du plus fort est toujours la meilleure.
(The most powerful always prevail, whether or not they are right)

Qui ne risque rien n'a rien.
(Nothing ventured, nothing gained)

Il ne faut pas juger les gens sur la mine.
(Don't judge people from their exterior)

Aux innocents les mains pleines.
(The meek shall inherit the earth)

Un malheur ne vient jamais seul.
(Misfortune never comes alone)

Le mieux est l'ennemi du bien.
(Better is the enemy of good)

Tel est pris qui croyait prendre.
(He is caught who thought he could catch)